‘惯着’ (guàn zhe) is a verb meaning to indulge someone—typically a child, romantic partner, or close family member—by consistently giving in to their demands, overlooking misbehavior, or shielding them from consequences. The character 惯 (guàn) means ‘to accustom’ or ‘to make habitual,’ while 着 (zhe) here functions as an aspect marker indicating an ongoing or habitual action, emphasizing the repeated, permissive nature of the behavior. Together, they convey a pattern of leniency that reinforces dependency or entitlement.

This word carries a subtle negative connotation: it suggests overindulgence that may hinder growth or discipline. It’s commonly used in parenting discussions, relationship advice, and social commentary—often critically, as in ‘Don’t just惯着 him; he needs boundaries.’ Unlike neutral terms like ‘care for,’ 惯着 implies excessive tolerance that risks enabling poor habits or emotional immaturity.